January marks my 1st year of being a life coach. I started my business back in early January 2017. I was so full of enthusiasm and excitement. There was a clear and vivid dream for my practice and I couldn't wait to make it a reality. This first year has been a total rollercoaster, full of highs and lows. As I reviewed my first year I decided to put together a list of things that I have learned about having a coaching practice.
I am immensely proud of everything I have achieved and learned over this last year. I am looking forward to building on that foundation with all my lessons to help me this year.
19 lessons that I learned in my 1st year as a life coach
- Be prepared for hard work, don’t give up at the first hurdle.
- Planning your dreams is fun and exciting and safe. Making them a reality is harder, scarier and more difficult than you can ever imagine when in the dreaming phase.
- The reality of your business will look nothing like the dream you had before you started.
- A work at home entrepreneurship is lonely. You need time to be sociable like you would if you had colleagues in an office. Timeout aids your business.
- A successful business is rarely built alone, you need support. Family, friends paid professionals, advisors and mentors. Work out what you need and get it.
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- There is always more to learn, even when you have it all figured out
- It is really easy to do what is safe and comfortable. Neither I nor my business seems to grow from this place.
- Some things are worth feeling the fear having to be brave, some are not.
- It can take time to feel comfortable to describe yourself as a life coach to others. Being ok with people not knowing what a life coach does, also takes practice.
- Remembering why you started is the most important thing you can do on a bad day.
- Everything looks better after a few deep breaths, failing that a good night’s sleep works too.
- Running a business is like having a baby, you need to put a lot of work in to look after it but suffocating it and smothering with love and attention doesn’t work either.
- Like parenting, your going to want someone to tell you what to do. Also, like parenting, nobody can really know your business better than you.
- If you do not really believe in what you are selling/providing. Do something else.
- Try not to make big decisions while panicking about deadlines or money. Being calm and feeling grounded is the best mindset for tackling big decisions.
- There will be times when you will wonder why you are putting yourself through all this anguish. See number 9 or number 13
- Your family and friends may not always be the right advisors. They are invested in your wellbeing but
- Be yourself, be honest. Pretending to be what you think your customers want is a dead end. Being authentic and open about who you are is much more attractive and interesting and it’s a hell of a lot easier.
- Nobody notices your typo's or mistakes more than you do. Almost everything can be fixed later.
If I met someone who was just starting out in their 1st year as a life coach, I'd be incredibly excited for them. I think I would have to hold myself back from gushing about the journey they are away to take and all they are going to learn.
The thing is I cannot claim to be an expert or a guru.I have a good part of my journey still to come. There will be self-doubt in the quiet months or when an offering just doesn't appeal to my customers. Ultimately, it all comes down to why I do this job. Why I am prepared to feel nervous and proceed with a new idea. Why I am ok with the strange hours that fit into different time zones. The fear of public speaking and the nervousness of putting myself out there.
I became a coach because
I want to make a difference. I want to help women who feel how I used to feel every day. Through coaching, I want to help them work out their own next steps so that they can live a life that is happy, fun and free.
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