When life feels hard it can be easy to think that we are not doing enough, that we are not making things happen. We often feel like we need to keep pushing and finding ways to solve our all our problems immediately. I have had many clients tell me that they need to find a solution to their problems yesterday! That is a lot of pressure!
Remember you are only human and you are doing all you can every day. It is always enough. You do not have to have everything fixed all at once. You are doing the best you can with what you have at this moment.
Personally, I am guilty of minimising the hard stuff. I'll tell people "it is fine" when I really I feel like it is anything but fine. I am pretty sure I am not fooling anyone either. There is no doubt that you will get through whatever you are facing but that doesn't mean you are not entitled to feel bad about your situation now. When things are hard, it doesn't help to ignore how you feel. Be honest with yourself. It is much easier to support yourself when you are honest about how you are really feeling.
There is no doubt that you will get through whatever you are facing but that doesn't mean you are not entitled to feel bad about your situation now. When things are hard, it doesn't help to ignore how you feel. Be honest with yourself. It is much easier to support yourself when you are honest about how you are really feeling.
Think back on every challenge you have faced before. I am guessing a lot of them felt pretty impossible to deal with. You are stronger and more capable than you realise. You have come through challenges before and will overcome more obstacles in the future. Have faith in your abilities. One day you will look back on this time as something challenging that you overcame.
No matter how permanent or difficult the situation, things change and you change. You grow and adapt just as the world around you does.
To give you an example, my son was a really colicky baby. He would cry and cry for hours every evening no matter what we tried to find something to soothe him. When I say we tried every trick in the book, I mean every single one!
During that period his Dad and I couldn't imagine a future where our darling boy didn't cry and howl every evening. It felt like he was going to be colicky forever! It seemed so difficult to see beyond our frustration and worry, no matter how often we were told it was a stage that would pass with time.
When things are hard it can be easy to forget that our situation and feelings are not permanent. Everything changes, neither the good nor the bad times last forever. One day the difficult times you are facing will be something you look back on from the other side.
It is so easy to feel like we are the only one in the world having a hard time. It can appear like everyone else is managing perfectly while we desperately try to make it look to the outside world that we are coping.
Reach out and tell someone that life is kicking your ass right now. Chances are that the person you talk to has been where you are. Who knows, they may even reply with "me too!"
Each of us has our own unique challenges but no one is exempt from obstacles and difficulty. There are all moments when we want to jump ship. Talking about it with someone can remind you that you are not alone and that you will get through this.
If you are struggling at the moment, this is my gentle reminder. Life will get easier again, you do not have to be a superhero!
You can download my free notes to yourself as a reminder of your awesomeness when life is hard. You can cut them out, put in your planner or use them as bookmarks or simply download it to your phone so you have a little encouragement when you forget to give it to yourself.